This is how you fix the problem when you try to add your friend to Blackberry Messenger and it stays in ‘pending’. It is reallllllly annoying if you don’t know how to fix the shit.
First write down your friends PIN or copy to Clipboard. Then, while in the messenger window, select menu / add contact / scroll to the top / highlight use once / menu /request by pin/type in friends PIN/VOILA!
Here’s where I got the tip!!